Learn Radical Self-Acceptance Therapy™ (RSAT)
What if healing didn’t mean fixing yourself, because you were never actually broken?
Radical Self-Acceptance Therapy™ helps you:
- Heal self-abandonment and inner fractures
- Complete and resolve stuck emotions
- Reclaim your authentic, whole self
RSAT is built on a simple truth: At the core of trauma is a disconnection from self and healing begins by repairing that relationship.
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What makes RSAT different
- We don't manage symptoms → we look for root cause.
- We don’t rescue → we complete.
- We don’t fix → we repair the inner bond.
- We don’t scramble → we have a clear process
- We don’t manage several parts → there is only one.
- We don’t revisit trauma → we heal in the present.
- We don’t stop at childhood → every fracture matters.
- RSAT follows present-day patterns to the fractured parts beneath them, restores the relationship with those parts, and creates the conditions for incomplete emotions to reach completion.
The RSAT Building Blocks
Understanding RSAT begins with four simple ideas: how we become disconnected from ourselves, what happens to the parts we leave behind, the relationship that allows those parts to heal, and the central task of completing the emotions they still carry.
The Core Injury: Fracturing
When our emotions become too overwhelming, or experiencing them threatens our sense of safety or belonging, we naturally disconnect from the parts of ourselves carrying those emotions.
RSAT refers to this protective process as fracturing.
A fracture is not a flaw or something broken within you. It is a natural adaptation to difficult experiences.
One way fracturing occurs is through a conflict between two fundamental human needs: attachment and authenticity.
Attachment is our instinct to connect, belong, and feel safe with others. Authenticity is our instinct to know our own truth and express it.
If experiencing or expressing our emotions, needs, or authentic self threatens an important relationship, we may disconnect from those parts of ourselves in order to preserve connection.
This isn’t a conscious choice. It’s a protective adaptation.
RSAT heals by creating an inner environment where attachment and authenticity can exist together. We no longer have to choose between belonging and being ourselves.
All of us fracture. And all of us can heal.
The Hurt: Our Fractured Parts
Fractured parts are the parts of ourselves we became disconnected from during difficult experiences. They remain separated from the rest of us, carrying incomplete emotions and unmet needs from the original experience.
Until that relationship is restored, fractured parts continue trying to express themselves and have their needs met in the only ways they know how.
This is why we may experience recurring patterns, persistent emotions, relationship difficulties, anxiety, self-criticism, symptoms, or behaviours that don’t seem to make sense.
RSAT doesn’t see these experiences as the problem. Instead, they are meaningful expressions of fractured parts trying to reconnect with us.
Fractured parts can be any version of ourselves that became disconnected from us: our baby self, our ten-year-old self, our adolescent self, the version of ourselves who went through a divorce, the version of ourselves from last week who couldn’t speak up, or the part of us that learned it wasn’t safe to fully show up in relationships.
The Healing Approach:
Radical Self-Acceptance
Healing begins with acceptance, not fixing.
When a part of us is carrying pain, our first instinct is often to make it go away. We judge it, avoid it, distract ourselves from it, or try to replace it with something more acceptable.
RSAT takes a different approach.
Rather than trying to change the fractured part, we begin by changing our relationship with it.
Fractured parts don’t heal because we understand them intellectually. They heal because they finally experience what was missing when they first became fractured.
A fractured part needs to know:
- I am seen exactly as I am.
- I am accepted unconditionally.
- I am not alone. I am stayed with.
This is what RSAT means by radical self-acceptance. It is the willingness to remain in relationship with every part of ourselves, especially the parts we have rejected, feared, or abandoned.
When these conditions are present, fractured parts no longer need to protect themselves in the same way. They begin to feel safe enough to reconnect, creating the conditions for the emotions they carry to finally reach completion.
The Central Task: Emotional Completion
Emotions heal through completion.
When a part of us becomes fractured, the emotions it was carrying often remain incomplete. Fear, grief, shame, anger, loneliness, or helplessness may never have had the opportunity to be fully experienced, expressed, or resolved.
These unfinished emotional experiences don’t simply disappear. They remain with the fractured part, continuing to seek completion through recurring patterns, persistent emotions, symptoms, and relationship difficulties.
When a fractured part feels seen, accepted, and no longer alone, something begins to change. The relationship is restored, creating the safety for the emotions it has been carrying to finally move toward completion.
This is the central task of RSAT.
By creating the conditions for incomplete emotions to reach completion, fractured parts no longer need to keep asking for our attention in the same way. As emotional completion occurs, healing and reconnection become possible.
The RSAT Steps
Step 1: Identify Your “You Are Here” Dot
Choose one pattern, symptom, emotion, or recurring difficulty that you would like to understand.
This is your “You Are Here” dot, the starting point that will guide you toward the fractured part beneath it.
Examples
- Anxiety
- People-pleasing
- Perfectionism
- Shame
- A recurring relationship conflict
- A strong emotional reaction
- A persistent symptom or behaviour
Before You Continue:
Choose one present-day pattern or experience you’d like to understand.
That’s your “You Are Here” dot.
Step 2: Use the 6-Question Inquiry to Access the Fractured Part
Using your “You Are Here” dot as a starting point, gently explore your experience using the Six-Question Somatic Inquiry.
Rather than thinking about the problem, become curious about how you experience it.
Ask yourself:
- Where do you feel it in your body?
- What does it feel like? (tight, heavy, hot, hollow…)
- What colour is it?
- What shape does it have?
- What texture does it have?
- How old does this experience feel in its original version?
There are no right or wrong answers. Trust the first response that comes to mind. Each question takes you beneath the surface, helping you move from the present-day pattern to the fractured part beneath it. This six-question inquiry is the way RSAT guides you from the “You Are Here” dot toward the fracture.
Before You Continue:
Have you found the part beneath your pattern?
You don’t need to understand it yet. Simply notice who or what you’ve found.
Step 3: Unlock the Fractured Part’s Emotion
Imagine the fractured part in front of you. Begin by getting curious about how they are feeling. Start with the emotion that is most accessible, the one at the “top of the pile.”
Ask yourself:
“What emotion is this part feeling?”
You can also ask the part directly.
You don’t need to solve the problem or make the emotion go away. Your only task is to identify what the part is feeling.
Sometimes, what comes up first isn’t an emotion. It may be a thought, belief, perception, or description of the part’s experience. When this happens, become curious about the emotion at the center of that experience.
For example:
The part says:
“Nobody likes me.”
This is a perception, not an emotion. Ask:
“What emotion is at the center of feeling like nobody likes you?”
Perhaps it’s sadness, loneliness, shame, or helplessness.
Or the part says:
“I feel like there’s no hope.”
Even though it begins with “I feel,” hopelessness may be describing the part’s experience rather than identifying the emotion underneath it.
Ask:
“What emotion is at the center of feeling like there’s no hope?”
Perhaps it’s fear, sadness, grief, or helplessness.
Don’t worry about finding the “right” emotion. Stay curious and allow the part to show you what it is carrying.
Before You Continue:
Can you name the emotion this part is feeling?
That’s all you need before moving to the next step.
Step 4: Complete the Emotion with the Completion Dialogues
Once you’ve identified the emotion your fractured part is carrying, your role is not to fix it, change it, or make it go away.
Your role is to stay with it.
Using the Completion Dialogues, help the part feel seen, accepted, and supported as the emotion moves toward completion.
The Completion Dialogues
- See
“I can see that you’re feeling (emotion). It makes sense. Anybody would feel this way.”
- Accept
“Your feeling of (emotion) is important. It’s welcome, and there is lots of space for it.”
- Stay
“You don’t have to feel this (emotion) alone. I am here with you, and I am going to stay.”
- Be Curious
“What’s the next emotion? Tell me more.”
As each new emotion emerges, repeat the dialogues until no further emotions arise and the part begins to feel relief. This repeated process of helping emotions move to completion is the central task of RSAT.
Before You Continue:
Has the emotion softened, shifted, or completed?
If another emotion emerges, repeat the Completion Dialogues before moving on.
Step 5: Excavate Deeper Emotions With the Deepener Dialogues
The Completion Dialogues help fractured parts complete the emotions they have been carrying. The Deepener Dialogues go one step further by exploring the undercurrent of the relationship between you and the fractured part.
Rather than focusing only on the part’s emotions, this step invites you to notice how you feel toward the fractured part, and how the fractured part feels in response to you.
These emotions often reveal the deepest layers of the fracture. By bringing them into awareness and completing them, the relationship between you and the fractured part can begin to heal.
Deepener 1
Ask yourself:
How do I feel about this fractured part?
Is there an emotion toward them, however small, that is not positive or neutral?
Deepener 2
Then ask the fractured part:
How do you feel in response to my emotion toward you?
Complete the emotion that arises using the Completion Dialogues from Step 4. Repeat the Deepener Dialogues as needed until your emotions toward the fractured part are positive or neutral. If your emotions are already positive or neutral but the fractured part still has incomplete emotions toward you, continue completing those emotions until they feel resolved.
If the fractured part still has emotions in response to you, complete those before moving on.
Before You Continue:
Have your emotions toward the fractured part become positive or neutral?
Take a moment to notice how this shift feels in your body.
Step 6: Integrate the Positive Changes Into Your Unconscious Mind and Daily Life
Begin by noticing how your fractured part feels now. What has changed? Perhaps they seem calmer, lighter, more relaxed, or more at ease.
Now turn your attention to your own body.
Where do you notice these positive changes within yourself?
Take a few moments to experience these sensations. Describe them to yourself, allowing them to become more familiar.
Next, return to your original “You Are Here” dot.
How has it changed? Notice any shifts in your thoughts, emotions, or the way the pattern now feels.
Finally, imagine yourself bringing this new experience into a future situation where it will be helpful. Picture yourself responding with the same sense of presence, acceptance, and connection you’ve created today.
These simple practices help strengthen the changes you’ve made and carry them into your daily life.
Before You Finish:
Healing isn’t about getting rid of fractured parts. It’s about creating an inner relationship where every part of you knows it is seen, accepted, and never has to be alone again.
As you continue through life, keep returning to your fractured parts with curiosity, compassion, and acceptance. Over time, this becomes more than a practice. It becomes a lifelong friendship with yourself.
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