As we near the age of 40 and take stock of our lives, many of us find ourselves feeling antsy, like we don’t quite fit in our own skin. The truth is, we never really did—but now we’re finally ready to notice it. In my work as a psychotherapist, I often guide people through this […]
The Truth About The Mid Life Crisis (and how to not screw it up) Read More »
Do you ever feel anxious, or embarrassed when meeting a new person? How about when you drive over a bridge, go on a plane, or sit in the passenger seat of a car – do you get a bit nervous? ALL of these experiences originate in a trauma, and more often than not, they are
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For many parents, supporting their child through hurt, while still holding on to their OWN hurt from childhood is challenging. The pain of being left out, or socially excluded is one that many of us (including myself) find difficult to maneuver. Quite often the pain that WE feel when witnessing our child be excluded is
When Being Left Out Hurts – healing ourselves through our kids Read More »
Question: Hey Tamar, My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 yrs. We met in High School, and started our relationship a week before school ended. He kept trying to be in a relatioship with me but I wanted to wait because I havent really been in a relationship. A few months after we
Need Advice: Should I Break Up With My Cheating Boyfriend? Read More »
There is one important difference between the genders that can easily be blamed for most arguments: Your Hormones. Oxytocin, or as it’s often called ‘the love chemical’, or ‘the cuddle hormone’ is central in keeping a woman’s body, and mind balanced. Women release this hormone by giving care, and nurturance to others. Once spent, women (hopefully) replenish it by
Arguing With Your Partner? Blame It On This Read More »
Did you know that intimate relationships are based on the exact same principles as parent-child relationships? It’s true. There are three main things we require from our parents (as children, and often even as adults) in order to feel safe, and secure. We need our parents to be present, trustworthy, and responsive to our needs. We
The Three Most Important Questions In Every Relationship (and how to get to a Yes) Read More »
When my son, Dylan was born I was so unprepared for what was to come with a newborn, every day was a challenge. We were not expecting to get pregnant. We had just returned from 6 months backpacking in India, and had many exciting plans for the near future, none of which involved dealing with
How I Beat Depleted Mother Syndrome (DMS), and Found Myself Read More »
A month ago, a client walked into my office for her scheduled session, and said that she was done with Therapy. As soon as she walked in the door, I noticed something different about her – she looked lighter somehow. Happier. Apparently, after our last session, she decided to give herself some quality self-time before returning home.
The Single, Most Important Thing A Mother Can Do For Her Family (a DMS success story) Read More »
This article was originally written in 2008! Not much has changed… Last tuesday I had an epiphany. For some reason, I woke up that morning with a vague sense of anxiety. It emanated from my slumber like the stench of a long forgotten piece of cheese left in an old shoe by a two year old.
My Epiphany… OR The Flying Sandwich Read More »
Question: Hi Tamar – I read your post about Depleted Mother’s Syndrome and want to know if it can affect mothers of older children? I have two tweens and many of the symptoms resonated with me. Thanks! Answer: Hi, I’m so glad you asked this question because so many women think that being depleted is
Advice Column: Can Depleted Mother Syndrome Affect Moms with Older Children? Read More »